Make Time For What’s Important
A few years ago I examined how I spent my time. I quickly learned that I spent a minimum of 60 hours a week working. This didn’t include commuting time. I wasn’t communicating with my family, I wasn’t exercising and taking care of myself, all I did was the bidding of my employer.
I needed more quality time with my family and for myself.
Time is short. No matter who we are, what we do, where we come from or what we hope to do, time marches on. Even the holidays can preclude putting time into what matters most. Many of us, rather than spending time with those we love, are fulfilling obligations and traditions that were created for us in another time or place. We may spend holidays with those that bring out anything in us but holiday cheer. No one is entitled to anything, least of all toxic people. Gently eliminate those that impede you from accomplishing what matters most.
Traditions are important, but they need to be evaluated regularly. Upon review, they should be discarded or renewed in light of changes in our circumstances. Nothing matters more than family. It’s important that the family you’re prioritizing is the one closest to you. That typically means your spouse and children. Under no circumstances should they be pushed aside for work, play or holidays.
There are time-tested ways that many have used to determine what is important to them and what they should do to support that importance. Once you’ve identified what you want to do, or better yet, what you feel you MUST do, we can help you achieve those goals.
Please take a moment to reflect on these suggestions:
1. Where do you spend your time? What you do and when you do it is one of the best indicators of what you view as important. Are you hanging with your buddies or are you outside playing with the kids? Do you and your wife take frequent trips or do you spend all your time at the office? People should matter most of all. While there is an obligation to provide for these people, you need not spend all your time making money. It’s possible to both provide for them and be with them.
2. Where is your money spent? When you do something very costly, e., a significant purchase most people take the decision very seriously. However, with smaller purchases, things tend to get away from us. Who cares about that $7.00 at the fast food restaurant? What’s the point of saving the $5.00 you’re about to spend on a lotto ticket? I NEED to see that movie, and, once I’m in there, how am I going to enjoy the show without the $9.00 popcorn and the $7.00 soda?
Must you always have the latest and greatest toy, or do you tithe and support charities? Doing both is possible.
3. What do you think about when your thoughts stray? When you daydream at your desk or find yourself waiting in a long line or just doing nothing, what occurs to you? Proverbs 23:7 says:
“For as he thinks within himself, so he is.”
You can be a generous person, you can be a sharing person, you can be the person you dream of becoming. We can help.
4. When you are gone, what will be your legacy? This can be the most troubling question of all. What will remain when you’re a memory. Will there be a hospital wing named after you or will your ashes be scattered never to be thought of again. The former is incredible, the latter is typical. Let us help you accomplish the former.